Some children show no signs of abuse. Most children will not tell. It is good parenting to check-in with our children and ask if anything inappropriate has ever happened to them. Remind them that no matter what has happened, whatever anyone has ever said or made them feel, it is never their fault, and that it is always the right thing to tell. Just like we tell our children that we love them even if we “know that they know” – it’s important that we remind them that it is OK to tell. Some survivors of abuse often say they wish that someone had just asked them, when they themselves didn’t have the power to tell.