After the first alert sent by the USA, the Federal Police prevent an imminent attack in Brazil.
After a first alert sent by the United States, investigations by the Federal Police…
THE COURAGE TO HEAL: THE GUIDE FOR WOMEN SURVIVORS OF CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE – STACI HAINES & TRACI ODEM
THE COURAGE TO HEAL: THE GUIDE FOR WOMEN SURVIVORS OF CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE - STACI HAINES & TRACI ODEM
By STACI HAINES & TRACI ODEM | 2017-08-03
The first encouraging,…
THE RAPE RECOVERY HANDBOOK: STEP BY STEP HELP FOR SURVIVORS OF SEXUAL ASSAULT
By APHRODITE MATSAKIS PHD | 2017-08-03
Survivors of sexual assault often suffer from symptoms of depression, substance…
THE SEXUAL HEALING JOURNEY: A GUIDE FOR SURVIVORS OF SEXUAL ABUSE (THIRD EDITION)
By WENDY MALTZ | 2017-08-03
Originally published two decades ago, The Sexual Healing Journey is a highly…
FROM SORROW TO SAPHIRES
By ANGELA WILLIAMS | 2017-08-08
Angela Williams truly breaks the silence in her courageous account of her incredible journey to freedom from the shame of childhood…
WHEN SURVIVORS GIVE BIRTH: UNDERSTANDING AND HEALING THE EFFECTS OF EARLY CHILDHOOD SEXUAL ABUSE ON THE CHILDBEARING WOMAN
By PENNY SIMKIN | 2017-08-08
When Survivors Give Birth provides survivors and their…
SURVIVORS OF CHILDHOOD SEXUAL ABUSE AND MIDWIFERY PRACTICE: CSA BIRTH, AND POWERLESSNESS
By LIS GARRATT | 2017-08-03
Many midwives will care for women who are survivors of childhood sexual abuse…
TRAUMA AND RECOVERY: THE AFTERMATH OF VIOLENCE–FROM DOMESTIC ABUSE TO POLITICAL TERROR
By JUDITH HERMAN | 2017-08-03
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THE BODY KEEPS THE SCORE: BRAIN, MIND, AND BODY IN THE HEALING OF TRAUMA
By VAN DER KOLK MD, BESSEL | 2017-08-03
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HEALING FROM TRAUMA: A SURVIVOR’S GUIDE TO UNDERSTANDING YOUR SYMPTOMS AND RECLAIMING YOUR LIFE
By JASMIN LEE CORI, ROBERT SCAER, DA CAPO PRESS | 2017-08-03
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BREAKING FREE, HELP FOR SURVIVORS OF CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE
By CAROLYN AINSCOUGH & KAY TOON | 2017-02-03
This manual is designed to help survivors of child sexual abuse. It updates…
A parenting workshop by Rabbi Yakov Horowitz, Director of The Center for Jewish Family Life’s Project YES & dean of Yeshiva Darchei Noam in Monsey, NY. Part of the “Keep Our…
This is part one of our three-part “Child Safety On-the-Fly” mini-video series which can help you learn and then convey the critical messages of child safety to your children.
This is the second of our three-part “Child Safety On-the-Fly” mini-video series which can help you learn and then convey the critical messages of child safety to your children.
This is the last of our three-part “Child Safety On-the-Fly” mini-video series which can help you learn and then convey the critical messages of child safety to your children.
Runaways and at-risk youth are targeted by pimps and traffickers for exploitation in the commercial sex industry or different labor or services industries.
Pimps and sex traffickers are skilled at manipulating…
Whether it’s babysitting, scooping ice cream, or doing some office work for a business owner (even if the employer is family or a family friend), it is important to talk…
“It is important that your child know that as thinking, conscious human beings we have the opportunity to think about how to deal with our own arousal before we do…
From The Sex-Wise Parent author, Janet Rosenzweig:
“A major study found that almost all boys and two-thirds of girls over age 13 have been exposed to online porn. Most exposure happens between the ages of 14…
Computers belong in common areas, not bedrooms.
Educate yourself on setting appropriate filters for explicit images/language for your computer.
Explain the dangers of sharing personal information – full…
Research has shown that the human brain does not complete developing until our 20s and 30s. The frontal lobe, the part of the brain that manages impulse control, judgment, insight, and emotional…
Being a good person isn’t just about not hurting others; it’s about helping others.
Your child may witness or suspect abuse of another child, or may even have a friend that discloses…
We must raise children to respect all life. We cannot pick and choose which people/things deserve better treatment than others, it must be understood and children must be involved in…
All children crave love, affection, and attention. They need to know that they are special and appreciated. Abusers know this, and use it to their advantage by targeting children based on…
Don’t assume your children know right from wrong – make sure of it. Let your child know that sexual abuse is a crime. This might seem obvious, but it is…
“It is important that your child know that as thinking, conscious human beings we have the opportunity to think about how to deal with our own arousal before we do…
Sibling abuse is suggested to be one of the most under-reported forms of child sexual abuse. Although there is limited data on the prevalence of it, the most common form…
The characteristics of bullying and sexual abuse perpetrated by minors is often similar:
A positive attitude toward violence
A need to dominate others, be popular & in control
…
Most professionals agree that we need to explain puberty and sexual intercourse to our children. It may be to your advantage to explain it sooner rather than later before your children…
The idea that kids should never talk to strangers, can actually put them at greater risk if they should find themselves in a situation where they are isolated and need…
Pick a simple word or phrase that your child can use to communicate to you that they’re feeling uncomfortable or unsafe but can’t say it. This can be especially useful…
While abusers may attempt to bribe young children with toys or candy, when it involves older children it can become more complex. Let your children know to be wary of…
Establish a Body Safety Circle!
While we may assume our children will come to us first if they need help, realistically, we need to accept that no matter how strong our…
How do good parents miss child sexual abuse?
It is simply by not asking the right questions.
One day my son went to a classmate’s home for a costume party. When I…
If you’re teaching your baby the names of body parts, by all means start now to say the proper name for their genitalia. “Penis” is penis. For girls you may use…
Children thrive on structure at a very early age. Just like scheduling naps, bedtime routines, timeouts, teaching manners etc. Children want to know what is expected from them and from…
Sometimes it is necessary for a person to touch or look your child’s private parts. When you’re changing a diaper, applying cream, washing at bath time, visiting a doctor (with…
A child is sometimes forced to sit on the lap of an adult for that “memorable” photo of them screaming & squirming. It’s not funny, and more importantly – it’s sending a…
By example, teach your children that “no” will be respected if they do not want to be touched (ex. tickling, hugging, or kissing). If your child says no – stop.…
We brush our teeth and use floss, but sometimes a big person has to help. Sometimes they might have a hair or piece of food stuck in their mouth and want…
Before you know it, your child will figure out that boys and girls are different in more ways than one. They may see you dressing/toileting, or watch a diaper change…
You may fear this question, but can you blame them for being curious?
Young children 3-6 years will most likely be OK with simply being told that the baby starts out…
If someone threatens them, or does something that they feel is wrong or makes them uncomfortable, you want them to tell you. You will be proud of them for telling…
Let your children know they are not allowed to accept gifts, money, or special favors without asking a parent first. It can be confusing for a child to be sexually abused,…
Even convicted abusers have admitted being surprised by how easy it was to get a child to keep their abuse a secret. Secrecy is, obviously, essential for the abuser to victimize.
Many…
We’ve probably all experienced a moment where we were around someone or in a situation and had an uneasy feeling, usually in our stomach. We could sense that a person’s…
While many use the term “monster” to describe sexual abusers – they do not usually come into the life of their victim formed as such. If anything, it’s quite the…
While we can never guarantee that our children will have the fortitude to escape a bad situation (especially when abusers are often people they know & trust), we can do…
ITS NEVER TOO LATE TO TELL
The moment a child discloses abuse will most likely be remembered as one of the toughest moments of their life.
It is our job to…
Sexual abuse is often confusing for a child. Abusers often manipulate children by making them feel that this is a loving interaction, that it is normal. They often seek to…
Remind your children every month or two what you have taught them.
Use real-life examples to explain what you mean.
A child that understands that Mommy and Daddy have…
Get Help For Your Family
If you or someone you know has further questions about a situation in their family or community, please check out our Online Help Center or email or call…
Rabbihorowitz.com Project Y.E.S. (Youth Enrichment Services). Rabbi Horowitz is recognized throughout the Jewish community as an authority on raising children in these troubled times.
SafelyEverAfter.com Pattie Fitzgerald blends her expertise as a certified prevention educator,…
ONLY 10% OF ABUSE CASES ARE BY STRANGERS
2015-02-10
The good news is stranger danger is not as common as you might think. While it is terrifying to think of…
Consider how to protect your children when one-on-one activities occur when you are not home or outside the home.
When two people are going out alone together:
Ask them what their…
Get to know the people in your neighborhood – if there are other parents with children, consider organizing an abuse prevention seminar from a local professional. Contact your local rape/crisis…
Let your house have an open-door policy when applicable. If it’s daytime and people are around the house – doors should be open if there is more than one person in…
Whether it’s an established karate studio or an in-home piano teacher, there are things we can look for and require to make after school activities safer for our kids.
If…
You are obviously putting a great amount of responsibility into the hands of this person. They are alone in your home (or theirs) with your children. You cannot do a…
Many organizations may already have in place or are working to put into place a protocol for minimizing the sexual abuse of children. This mostly applies for large organizations that…
These are people whom we hold a level of respect for that may or may not work with children. We want to believe they are responsible, good, caring people. Rabbis,…
The pattern of targeting and grooming is of particular importance in relation to disabled children and as mainstream services become more vigilant, perpetrators may move into other less attentive services,…
“I cannot say enough words of caution to single women with children: do not allow the men you are dating to have access to your children… It is hard to…
Some children show no signs of abuse. Most children will not tell. It is good parenting to check-in with our children and ask if anything inappropriate has ever happened to…
Child sexual abuse is largely an unwitnessed and often undetected crime. Research suggests that most cases of child sexual abuse are never disclosed to authorities (Martin & Silverstone, 2013). In…
Children Cannot Be Held Responsible For Their Own Safety
Childhood should be about so many amazing things. Sure there will be trials and tribulations that they will work through, but sexual…
There are a myriad of reasons why children don’t tell, but almost always, an abuser must mentally and emotionally brainwash a child in order to perpetrate. It can be heartbreaking…
Different survivors react to their experiences differently. This does not necessarily depend on what happened physically. A survivor who has been raped will not necessarily be more damaged than a…
You don’t need to spend a lot of time catching up with real friends, and as my schedule changed recently, I found myself catching up with one I hadn’t talked…
It can be hard to acknowledge that all of us, even children, are sexual beings, have sexual feelings and are curious about sex and sexuality. Children’s curiosity can lead to…
This may be one of the biggest reality-checking curveballs regarding child sexual abuse: Who would have ever thought that up to 40% of abusers were older or more powerful children?
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It is hard to get solid statistical evidence to support just how often it happens because so many victims abused by women tell much less than those abused by men. Many…
Incest is allowed to thrive when people lack the fortitude to accept that it exists. The attitude that it happens in “other” families but couldn’t happen in our own, puts…
In most cases, abusers seek or take advantage of being in a position of trust in a one-on-one situation with a child: a bedroom, a bathroom, a car, a place…
This is what you can look for to potentially identify grooming behaviors of sexual abusers of children. This applies not only to your children, but even for friends/relatives. You may…
Groomers are patient. They’re often intelligent, friendly, and helpful. They don’t want to get caught – but they may push the limit to see how much they can get away…
We may never have the exact answer what specifically drives offenders, and no two predators think and act alike. While pedophiles are specifically driven by sexual-attraction to children, non-pedophilic perpetrators…
Many predatory abusers premeditate abuse, fantasize about sexual interaction with children, often view pornography or child pornography, select their victims carefully, and invest effort and time to groom them into…
They can be the most educated, the most good-looking, the rich, the do-gooders. Women and children too.
Perhaps naturally, or even through media outlets (tv, movies etc), we come to think…
Who is the typical child molester?
I am probably well known and liked by you and your child.
I can be a man or a woman, married or single.…
When interviewed, convicted child sex-offenders admitted to being very particular about the children they chose to abuse. They looked for children that were loners or seemed less-confident and in need…
A sex offender continually seeks ACCESS AND PRIVACY with their intended target as part of their manipulation and grooming process. In addition, there are often other warning signs and behaviors…
Use the anatomically correct terms for private parts. Teach kids to use this language.
Teach your child that it’s ok to say “no” to anyone whose actions make them feel weird, yucky, or uncomfortable.…
1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys are sexually abused by their 18th birthday. We can change that. 93% of the abuse is someone known to the child…
Debra Byrne reads Some Secrets Should Never Be Kept. The book is aimed at 3-12 year old children and is intended to give them skills to deal with inappropriate touch.
Different survivors react to their experiences differently. This does not necessarily depend on what happened physically. A survivor who has been raped will not necessarily be more damaged than a…
Myth: Child sexual abuse is a rare experience.
Fact: Child sexual abuse is not rare. Retrospective research indicates that as many as 1 out of 4 girls and 1 out of 6 boys…
In its simplest form, child sexual abuse is a sexual encounter that occurs between a child and an older person (as children cannot legally consent to sexual acts). A child…
CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE STATISTICS
2015-01-26
In the United States, approximately 1 out of every 4 girls and 1 out of every 6 boys is sexually abused before the age…
The Holocaust was a tragically defining episode of the 20th Century, a crisis for European civilisation and a universal catastrophe for humanity. It shook the foundations of modern civilisation and…
Many senior Nazi war criminals were never sentenced for their roles during the Holocaust. Some, like Adolf Hitler and Heinrich Himmler committed suicide as the war came to an end.…
After the Holocaust, those who survived often faced incomprehension and even hostility. People who went back to where they had previously lived frequently discovered that their homes were occupied by…
As Allied troops made progress across Nazi-occupied Europe, they began to uncover concentration and extermination camps. The camp of Majdanek in Poland was the first to be liberated, in the…
Jews responded to the ghetto restrictions with a variety of resistance efforts. Ghetto residents frequently engaged in so-called illegal activities, such as smuggling food, medicine, weapons or intelligence across the ghetto walls,…
Auschwitz-Birkenau is the most infamous of all Nazi camps and we commemorate Holocaust Memorial Day on 27 January, the date of its liberation by Soviet troops. Over 1.1 million people…
In occupied Poland most Jews were forced into ghettos. In other parts of occupied Europe, Jews were marshalled into transit camps, ahead of their deportation to occupied Poland.
Arrival of Jewish…
The earliest concentration camps forced their prisoners to undertake pointless physical activity like stone breaking, but as the camp system developed the Nazis increasingly exploited prisoners’ labour for economic gain.
Death…